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Birthday Chit Chat: Things I Have Learned in 25 Years

Friday, 21 July 2017
A quarter century! Growing up is crazy because you acquire all this wisdom and you really can trace how you evolve and grow as a person. At the same time, even though I am know what I am doing more than I have have, I am acutely aware that I truly have no idea most of the time! Does that even make sense? It's like the more you grow up, the more you realise how much you have to learn going forward. All this notwithstanding, I thought it would be fun to share my ramblings and the little things I think I have learned over the years.

Body Image

Lets get the humdinger out of the way first. We all struggle with this! I don't care if you are male, female, short, tall, skinny, fat... insecurities have a way of worming their way in. I am not going to lie and say I am completely evolved and I am past feeling like crap about myself. I still try on clothes in the harsh light of a department store changing room and critique all the things I'd change in a perfect world. But the point is, those moments are fewer and further between now. They are scattered among much more frequent feelings of confidence and acceptance. Do I still want to get braces to fix my teeth? Yep. Would I ideally like to adopt a healthier lifestyle and look a little trimmer in my favourite styles? You betcha. But at the same time, I kinda like they way I look. I am me and the world would be a very boring and monochromatic place if we all looked like the ever shifting ideals. 

The Pressure To Succeed
As a compulsive overachiever all the way through school, I always had all of these lofty ideas of what my future would look like. I envisioned being in a full-time career position by this time and that hasn't happened yet. And you know what? That is quite okay. 17 year old me would be freakin' the **** out, but instead of looking at all the things I haven't quite done yet, I instead think about how I managed to achieve highly in not only one, but three degrees! I find myself doing this crazy blogging thing, which is so far from what I envisioned for myself but I kinda love it! I have found my niche and what I absolutely love to do and I know it will lead to great things. It's perfectly okay if they haven't all quite happened yet. 

Relationships

Admittedly, I have never been a social butterfly. I have always had a few close friends and that is about it. Like everyone, I also have some tricky family relationships. Being realistic about your relationships and knowing when they are healthy and mutually beneficial, as apposed to when they are toxic and emotionally draining, is the key to growing up in my opinion. There are so many amazing people in the world and life is far to short to waste time trying to make relationships work with people who don't deserve it. 

It Is Okay To Be a Little Bit Selfish

I live my life acutely aware of the people around me and how my actions affect them, which comes with the very common side effect of putting your own happiness on hold sometimes for the good of others. I think that is a wonderful trait in people and generosity is something I pride in myself and admire in others. At the same time though, sometimes you need to be a little selfish! It is great to help others but you should be a consideration in there at some point too. Its also worth being aware that there are some people who can take advantage of generosity and you have to be willing to step away from those situations for you.

Know Yourself

I think this is one thing that I can safely say I had no idea about in my early twenties. I was so desperate for approval and I modelled myself after so many people around me, aspiring to be like them, rather than being my own person. I think that is totally okay too because we have to try on a few personalities before we find our own but I think it is my favourite part about growing up. More than ever I know where I stand on things, who I am as a person and how I want to be perceived by others and it is a pretty damn empowering thing to know. 

I know this was a really different kind of post so please let me know what you thought about it. Would you like more personal posts like this in the future? I am certainly not perfect by any stretch of the imagination and I definitely don't have it all figured out, but I think it is always fun to share things like this and read other people's experiences and nuggets of wisdom because it means we can all learn from each other. I'd love to hear from you as well! What important things have you learned growing up?
9 comments on "Birthday Chit Chat: Things I Have Learned in 25 Years"
  1. They sound like some really good, solid lessons.

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    1. I'm glad you liked them. Thanks for reading :)

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  2. This post speaks to me so much! Even though I'm 32 I feel I've learnt so much in the last few years about myself and now I'm so confident in who I am and what I want out of life :)

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    1. Thanks so much! It really means a lot and I'm so glad that you identified with so many things :)

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  3. Just wow, i can relate to most of the points you mentioned but now at 30+ , i am more comfortable in my skin than i ever was. You write so well, i thought like reading about my feelings in this post.

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    1. Thanks so much! Even though I sometimes stress about getting older, I have to say that I'm looking forward to getting more and more comfortable in my own skin too

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  4. Forgot to mention about the nail paint you are wearing in the picture above, so pretty and your eyes are so beautiful

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    1. Aw you are so sweet! It really means a lot because I'm always a bit self conscious appearing in my blog posts. The nail polish is Essie Nice is Nice by the way :)

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  5. Love this post! I'm the same age as Marisa & I really feel that since turning 30 I've learnt even more about myself & have greater self-awareness as opposed to when I was your age. I think that the most beautiful things about getting older are the lessons you learn along the way & becoming comfortable in your own skin. I still have days where I'm not entirely comfortable within, but I know I'm a damn sight better than I was when I was in my 20's.

    Shell // The Novice Life

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